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I’m trying to think of a time when I won’t ask for help. It’s probably in situations where I don’t know anyone. I can get a bit shy and figure I’ll figure it out on my own. If I know people I’ll ask for help when I feel like I need it. I think that’s the key word though for everyone, “feel like” because that can vary from person-to-person and situation-to-situation. It’s a very humbling experience to ask for help.
I am blogging everyday (or nearly everyday) on The Daily Stoic.
Listening allows me to tap into situations much better than talking. Instead of telling someone how it should be I try to ask questions to better understand the goal and quite often the frustrations. It’s helped me become very successful. It’s also something I can forget at times. I can get ranty or preachy about things and that’s when I tend to start losing the person I’m talking to.
I am blogging everyday (or nearly everyday) on The Daily Stoic.
Trying different handles is something that for me takes time. I tend to fail over and over again until it really sinks in. When it sinks in though I tend to not revert back to the other handle. It’s almost like I don’t just pull down on the handle I pull up and to the side and diagonally. I try the handle many different ways until I eventually move on. It can be frustrating but it’s progress and that’s just how I go about it. I wish I could just switch to the other handle.
I am blogging everyday (or nearly everyday) on The Daily Stoic.
Life is a constant struggle or in this stoic battle. There’s a lot of things we fight on a daily basis. Hunger, impulses, emotions, and bad habits. It’s good to remember when making decisions that even when I want to do something I may be losing a battle.
I am blogging everyday (or nearly everyday) on The Daily Stoic.
The older I get the harder it is to combat my bad habits. This is why it’s best to nip bad habits in the butt early. I feel I’m at a stage where I’m battling a lot of bad habits. It’s easy to forget that I also have a lot of good habits. This blog and daily stoic is one. I may go several days without post or doing them. Eventually I come back though and I’m trying to gain more consistency with them. That’s difficult when traveling or entertaining guests. It’s not easy to do it at the end of a long day on vacation. I’m trying to work on that.
I try not to compare myself to others. Instead I look at their accomplishments and analyze the path to get there. Accomplishments usually are a long road. I do this a lot in golf where I’m playing with people who have played for decades at this point. I’m in year one of playing regularly. I’ve broken a 100 and I’m working towards 90 now. I’ve made the biggest gains I’m going to make and over the coming years will be much smaller gains. I have to remember that when I’m playing with others. It takes time and repetition. If I continue with my process though I will eventually get to their level and maybe at a much quicker rate.
This is one of the stoics that really spoke to me last year. I’ve made things worse by getting angry and letting out rage. It’s made situations worse. Often it was when I broke something or banged my head. I’ve put holes in walls that now need to be repaired and will cost time and effort. I’ve done a much better job of not reacting and taking in a few breaths to try and calm my initial reaction.
Prior to stoicism I worried a lot. I worried about a lot of things that were out of my control. I had to work at not letting those things bother me. Often I’ll say that things happen for a reason and that I need to be prepared for situations that I’ll need to adjust. I have to trust in my own ability that things will work out and I’ve often find for the better. What I thought might be the best route ends up not being the best route.
