Seeing Things As The Person At Fault Does

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Looking at things from another person’s perspective when I feel they are wrong is a hard thing to do. It’s a harder thing to remember to do. I try. Usually that’s when I’m confused about the reason for making this decision or that or doing things another way. With my team I’m learning that they’re not like me and won’t do things the way I’ve done them. How could they. They didn’t grow up with my family or my experiences. I have to remember that when I want to step in and take charge. It can be a very difficult thing to do. I’m getting better at it.

Living Without Restriction

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Getting off work today, I really wanted to have a drink. It was a long day with good ups and downs. I’m trying to cut back though and not allow alcohol to be my release because that usually leads to bad things. That could be restricting in itself. Maybe freedom is a lie. I often ask why not because it’s not a bad thing. It’s just bad when I overindulge. Often I overindulge because I’m trying to blow off steam. That can backfire. Other times it can work out just fine. Then again that may be the reasoning within my own head to continue doing habits I’ve formed over the last few years. I would like to feel like I’m in control a bit more.

Find Yourself A Cato

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I think the daily stoics are becoming my Cato. They help me reel in some of my emotions and thoughts. They’re comforting and provide me an outlet to become a better person.

Daily Stoic(s)

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Yesterday - Don’t Unintentionally Hand Over Your Freedom

This stoic last year really stuck with me. This is where I learned that I have control over my own thoughts. I shouldn’t let outside influences take over my control. I still struggle with it and I’m practicing to be better about it.

Today - Find The Right Scene

You are a reflection of the people you spend the most time with. My reflection is about to change. I had two good friends move this past week. I spent quite a bit of time with them hanging out. They are good people and I intend to see them again. I am a social creature though and I am looking for new opportunities to spend time with the right people. I am curious if this works being online.

Daily Stoic(s)

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Yesterday - Don’t Tell Yourself Stories

Don’t perform for people. Don’t dominate the conversation. Essentially, put the focus on other people. I’ve always gotten along with people well. The problem was that I could never hold friends. They would get sick of me. Eventually, I figured out that I would perform or go for the laugh instead of focusing on them. That didn’t make others feel great about me. When I started to put the emphasis on the other person, I could tell the difference in how people felt about me. They wanted me around. They wanted to engage.

It’s really hard not talk about my self. I’m a selfish person. We all are. I do have to real myself in. Forget the thing I wanted to get out in a conversation and instead focus in on what the other person was telling me and asking follow up questions. It sometimes feel like being a spy. I can have entire conversations with people. Get to know a lot of information about them and they don’t know anything about me.

Today - Don’t Trust The Senses

I recently became aware that I’m an extrovert. I’ve always thought I leaned towards being an introvert because I liked playing video games. What I missed was that I like playing video games with other people. They really recharge me. I thought it was the game amping me up. Instead it’s the collaboration with other people and communication that really amps me up. I hadn’t discovered this until recently. I’ll go to a happy hour exhausted and leave recharged and energized for the evening. That will lead to problems because I’m not ready for bed. Identifying that though allows me to adjust for it and compensate.